Twelve years ago today Brian and I were married in Oakland, California. We don't usually make too big of a deal about it. Instead, we sit around and talk about the stuff we wish would do. It is so much less expensive. Honestly, Brian and I have been able to things and go places beyond my wildest dreams so I always feel good about having a modest dinner and calling it good. This year Hannah got invited to a birthday party where they had swimming and cake and pizza, so it seemed like an extravaganza to us. She had been asking if it was time to go the party for the last two weeks. We played on the toys. Then we had some cake. Then we played in the pool. This was her first time in a public pool. She has been in a wading pool and a shallow creek previously. One of the other moms lent Hannah these goggles. She really enjoyed them. I went out and watched Hannah and played with her in the pool and Brian ...